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All couples face problems in relationships. And one of the most annoying is total control. The more your partner controls you, the lower your self-esteem gets. One day, you can simply forget about those things that used to be a ificant part of your life. The very thought of this will make you doubt if your partner loves you and your hobbies.
In addition, controlling relationships are extremely difficult to end. If your girlfriend controls every aspect of your life, once you break up, you can face a devastating sense of lack of support. Because of this, many people return to their relationships, with all their shortcomings. But we should always remember that the meaning of any romantic relationship should be in happiness and harmony. If you suspect that your girlfriend is controlling you too much, check out these 10 s to find out for sure.
Control is actually a good thing if you think of it. But if control goes beyond rational care, violating your right to personal choice and freedom of action, it spoils the relationship. You feel like a victim, and the relationship with someone who has a controlling personality begins to suffocate you. But you keep doing everything that your personal warden asks or suggests. But after a couple of years or even a few months, she shows her dark side constantly controlling you and trying to limit your freedom.
This situation will sooner or later make you want to break free and put an end to this controlling relationship, but not all are able to switch from thoughts to actions, preferring to suffer and endure, hoping that the partner will change someday.
In the meantime, this partner develops a hypertrophied sense of ownership while you slowly lose your true I. Not to mention that, as a rule, strict control over a relationship gradually deprives a person of the opportunity to communicate freely with friends.
Power over others, in this case, is only an executive tool for lowering the internal level of anxiety. Such people use control to get rid of fears to face quarrels and breakups. Control in a relationship is, in fact, a very strained chain which fetters the partner, preventing him from living his life.
All couples have fights occasionally. But for controlling people, quarrels and criticism are obligatory parts of the relationship. After all, we all want to seem better than we are. Having washed the dishes, they already consider themselves life saviors. It may turn out that you and your partner show the same amount of care for each other. But unlike you, she just wants everyone to know how caring she is. This can make you feel like you owe her. This may result in the victim always seeing his controlling partner as a model of behavior, trusting her with important decisions again and again.
She can make you feel obliged to try harder to get her approval. Most likely, you subconsciously allow your partner to make important decisions for you. A controlling partner constantly threatens her boyfriend with a breakup when she sees that he can be manipulated. This is one of the typical s of a controlling girlfriend. Girls often abuse the importance of sex in order to manipulate their boyfriends and get what they want from them. Jealousy can be another red flag worth paying attention to. Destructive relationships have never ended on a positive note yet.
Feel guilty when doing something at your own will? Have a feeling that you have to spend every spare minute with your partner just to avoid quarrels? All these are s of a controlling relationship. Moreover, they suggest that control has grown to a stage where you no longer have the right to a personal life outside of the relationship. All these s indicate that it's time for you to rethink your relationship. Follow your feelings and instincts.
You need to move towards them, making small steps, and it may take a month, two, or maybe a year. But your own freedom is worth it. Here are a couple of ways to protect yourself against excessive control. There are many types of controlling people, but the main reason why we allow tyrants to dominate over us is low self-esteem.
Therefore, the main component of your break-free-from-control plan is to increase your importance. In any relationship or marriage, cooperation plays a very important role. This means that none of the partners can be a lord and master, and no one should be striving for it. Such things will never help in building strong relationships. Have a chat and try to help her understand how to stop being controlling.
Talk calmly, without screams and emotions. If you start talking in the same way your overly controlling girlfriend talks to you — expect trouble.
To be sustainable, the changes must happen slowly. Develop yourself, master more effective methods of communication, change your life and your attitude to it. Controlling behavior in a relationship and its effects Control is actually a good thing if you think of it. This puts romantic relationships in great danger. But in fact, she needs you so much that she wants to control you all the time and becomes extremely jealous. People, to whom control in a relationship is very important, may have sexual problems — they find it difficult to give themselves complete freedom in bed.
They may have some kind of concept about what exactly sex should be like. They may feel the need to control you but resist the loss of control over themselves at the same time.
People who have been through too much control from parents in their childhood can subconsciously strive for control. Begin with yourself. Work on your self-esteem There are many types of controlling people, but the main reason why we allow tyrants to dominate over us is low self-esteem.
Work together In any relationship or marriage, cooperation plays a very important role. Talk to the person controlling you Have a chat and try to help her understand how to stop being controlling. There are no comments.
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10 s of a Controlling Girlfriend